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Sunday, January 27, 2008

black royalty!...

i got this is my mail some years back, i just love to go back and read it and smile prouldly as i nod my head to the brothers response to this letter...its a white women's opinion of black women in an article written to sister 2 sister magazine and a request for response from black men,I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!!
i'm not a racist, i dont discriminate...but you just gotta root for your own sometimes yeah?...hope you enjoy it as much as i did.
(and em'...extremely long i know, but well worth the read)
Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA


RESPONSE

Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgiawith a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds , Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggle. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty


hope y'all african queens are doing the chicken dance after reading this...

36 comments :

  1. am I first before I go to read?

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  2. ok, now that we've confirmed that I'm first:
    I'm doing more than the chicken dance, I'm doing the two step, walking it out, and the Electric Slide all rolled up in one!
    The issue of black men dating white women has always been a sensitive issue in America. Even tho this brother is rooting for black women, a lot of black men still go for white women because of the lame reason A Disgusted White Girl gave. Shame on their sore loser asses!
    This dude's letter should be posted for more black women to read!

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  3. Queen baby, wot a 9ice article u have on ur page......BLACK ROYALTY - yes dats wot our black girlz are. I detest strongly the celebration of white chics without discimination. The truth is our girls are 2much......brains, beauty,poise,spirit,soul,& body n much more. Let me ask for a favour : can u allow me to publish this article on my blog 4 more black girlz to read, even the white ones???

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  4. nice article. personally im a mini racist so i hv issues wit inter racial datin. may i not fall in love wit a ahite man.

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  6. @anonymous gal-amin o! shame to bad pipo dem. Black men who put down sisters are cowards. full stop.

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  7. i totally disagree with y'all that don't feel the inter-racial dating!!!
    you do have a point from your post...but that doesn't mean it should be ruled out!!!

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  8. I can never get enough of this email. It always seems to refreshen my love for Black men.

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  9. @bumight...lol' work it girl...
    sometimes i feel it happens cos hes so insecure with himself despite his success and having her clinging to his arms just proves something to him...okay, now that sounds racist, but hey, go for love wherever u find it...it wouldnt hurt if it was a dark skinned siter tho...

    @tayo
    thanks man, but i cant take the credit for it altho i got the black royalty title(now i feel like i really do deserve the compliment.lol')

    @anonymous gal
    oh...man, would the black men go crazy.
    i love to claim i'm neutral, but sometimes...my first deep crush was on a russian named maxim. long story for another day.

    naija chickito
    omg, u just mirrored waht i said to bumight, insecurity drives em away most of the time, altho sometimes u cant help admiting its really love and thinking 'wats in a skin colour anyway?'

    toochi
    its not ruled out, its just being talked against, afterall where love chooses to land, it stays despite what we think.

    QMC
    same way i'm feeling it. thats why i just had post it.

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  10. Dangggggg this post is d shiiiiit!
    A disgusting white girl from hell has got issues maaan, wasn't she scared when she wrote that?
    I need the number of the black brother that replied, he might be the soul mate i've been looking for.

    FQ-babes how did u get the mail? can u trace it for me? i need to contact that dude asap.

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  11. DL's in lurvvvvv and u sound like u're back on ur feet yayyy.!
    unfortunately, its a male dude of mine who sent it to be, not the original author...

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  12. I don’t see anything wrong in interracial marriages; it is the reason behind those marriages that should be looked at.

    If you marry for real love, then so be it cause we can't choose whom our hearts falls for,

    But if you do so because you want your baby to be light skinned, curly hair, and other "jagbajantis" then that is where the real wahala is

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  13. sounds like something i would have said lol

    white women do have ego trips

    but just like the brother said black guys go to them becasue they want to go the easy way out

    they also go with them because they have thouroughly brainwashed by the media to love white women

    the black woman is the most beautiful, strong, brilliant woman on this earth and we should thank our lucky stars just to be able to be blessed with your presence and your attention

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  14. okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

    i like ittttt

    i like itttt

    way to go my 9ja queens

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  15. Nice post. Well i'm a little racist but wen it comes to love, I dont step on dat turf. Love can come in and size, shape or color.

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  16. woohoo! go BlackRoyalty! telling it as it is!!!

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  17. Go Black mamas!!!
    I so want to give that brother a kiss!
    WE rawk abegi!!!

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  18. A quick glance at the other comments and i have a pretty good idea what will happen to me if i decide to stack my tent in the evil camp of the wicked white wenches.

    Supporting the white lady will completely alienate me from all the lovely female black members of blogsville.

    And yet supporting the blacks might spoil my future plans of a romantic evening with Jessica Alba and Angelina jolie.
    The native doctor assures me that once i put my downpayment of 6 cows, 5 chickens and a head of TREX , it will come to pass.
    Thus far it's 0 for all...
    WHat to do...


    Right.

    Personally i think Latinos are angels that fell of heaven...

    That's as close to seating on the fence as i can make it.

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  19. Love the post ... as I read through I kinda wondered if I was indeed racist... okay I am as reacist is about keeping your race pure, now segregation that's a whole different ball game.

    The digusted white girl from somewhere in VA ... is truly ignorant and lacks self esteem big time, Nice one on the brother.

    Thank God all white chics are not like that...

    Really. this whole love thang is hard!- if u're happy it's fine ... aint no thang!

    Like the post .. really cool !

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  20. excuse the grammar :) in a bit of a rush!

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  21. i totally agree wit ur post gurl. Nice one.

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  22. Read this a while ago and totally relate with it...The guy's response was the bomb...if only he believed himself...mumu man will still cheat on his woman after saying all that....

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  23. allied...really theres nothing wrong if its for love and love alone, interacial or whatever(ur post says it all, yoruba n india)
    but in this context the lady was being a total biaaatch, sentiments just had to come to play.

    @JT...preach on broda...felt all tingly wit u saying 'the black most beautiful, strong, brilliant woman on this earth'. nice one.

    @anu boy..yeah man.

    @tintin...yayyyy, finally u make it to my kingdom.

    @nikkisab...u got that right, and when it comes in whatever form, who are we to dare turn away from it.

    @LLM...yup, we sure are royalty.

    @princessa...the number of kisses that bro would have had from apprecitive black women...even DL was going to propose to him.lol

    @ivaana...i think segregation sucks more than the whole racist issue...but then, the both say the same thingy, discrimination.
    and its a great thing that we learn not to generalise traits in people, at least not all white girls are like the disgusted white chic, and not all black girls are like the royalty picture out african prince described to us.

    manda...thanks.

    @afrobabe..,ahhh ahh, which man annoted u b4 u comented eh? dont spoil the apparation of an illusion of Gods gifts to women all the chics have built of the dude na...

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  24. oh carl...u're talking murder here...step outta the circle and get burnt, nice and slow.
    take note that wat we dont have in our lips like miss jolie, we got stacked in our behinds, all round and soft and...u know the deal.

    dont be going to no native doctors untill ater the nations cup aite, we dont want no dry spells.

    latinos eh?...no wonder the continuos quest to forcefully label our very own dear black royalty afrobabe as j'lo. shame on u.

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  25. Correct! This Black Loyalty guy means serious business o, i wonder if it could be superman (my black superman o)... Hmmm.

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  26. lol...no man annoyed me but you all know I am telling the truth...after all that english he spoke, he will still cheat on his black queen.

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  27. *doing the soulja boy dance*

    WOOHOO!!

    I got this same email a while back, strangely enough..... And its true. I have many male friends, nigerian even, that will tell me that they don't like to date nigerian girls because "their wahala is too much". One of them does not even like going to clubs where many nigerian girls are. When asked why, his reply is "Because i want to have sex. I can talk to a white girl in the club and have sex that night. But naija girls are long thing. They will front and front and front. When i want to get married, i will go and look for a nigerian girl. But for now, i want a white girl"

    IMAGINE!

    I won't lie, some black girls have wahala. But everything this black brother said is true. The black women are one of the most sufferred people in the world, in terms of history. After our struggle, of course you can't have us easily!

    *does the cupid shuffle*

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  28. this sounds like a racial argument born out of stereotyped perception/judgment. People are individuals... your choice is as wide as the options available to you or the options you wish to see...

    Can we all just get along! shuoo! LOL

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  29. i could dash myself to that black dude for a night, makes me feel like am blushing wit his reply...

    DL, u no serious ooo

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  30. Babes u ight? Haven't seen u around in a min.

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  31. One things for sure,
    Black women ,like white women, know how to make a guy wait..

    UPDATE!!

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