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Thursday, December 1, 2011

Rumor has it...

Gossip needn’t be false to be evil – there’s a lot of truth that shouldn’t be passed around.
~ Frank A. Clark
 
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Every one has an opinion about every other person. It becomes a problem when you paint a graphic picture of it and peddle it out as a fact. Trying to bring someone down just because you have the power to do so with your tongue. Now thats plain crazy.
It used to be fun hearing stories about certain people, because i sort of looked at them from far and thought they had it all good, they were people i couldn't be, because i saw myself as a lilliputian, instead of the Gulliver i really am. A little smear or two on their perfection wouldn't hurt nobody, and so when the stories came in all juiced up, i swallowed with glee never having any reason to doubt the source. That's what a small mind does to you.

These days i have learned to give everyone the benefit of a doubt. The fact that everyone is whispering the same story doesn't make it true. I have loads of male friends, and because i do, i can't even begin to count the number of them i have been said to date... enough to make Madonna blush, my mother used the governments' money to build a mansion, she is feeding off the government (and I'm still saving money to buy a bag o), my sister is gearing up to be the second wife of a certain governor, another sister is on the neck of some boy (she can't even stand saying hello to) to hasten the wedding date... Every other day is another story that gets the mouth hanging open.
He said, she said, they said... The moments when the rumors and gossips turned on me have made me realize how people have fallen victims and have been accused of things they have no idea about. Most times, all the juicy gossips are baseless talks to bring a person down... I wonder how a person sits and weaves a whole bunch of lies into a true picture they see, making it a believable fact. They say there is no smoke without a fire, but seriously, lighting a match to cook a meal is all it takes for them to paint a picture of a burning forest.
"Gossip can go under other names-backbiting, slander, rumors, hearsay, tale-telling. At its best, gossip whispers dubious hints, repeats questionable information, turns the light on another person a few degrees to the left, or suggests wrongdoing without facts to back up the suggestion. Gossip is a sin, for it depreciates personhood, often trying to make someone else look bad so you or I can look good. God hates gossip. We should too."
 iLumina interactive Bible
When it comes to girl friends and friends in general, i'm a bit weary on embracing the new. I make no efforts. Sometimes out of being polite and not wanting to be seen as a snub sends me to the hangouts i really want no part of. Friends of friends that i'm better off not knowing.
Recently i had a misunderstanding with a close friend because her friends cooked up a story with the words i uttered. Basically, i put water in a pot and went to sleep, and they put the pot on the fire, added ingredients and made a nice pot of porridge with this issue.
I have been living my life for the past couple of months oblivious to the fact that this non issue has gone from ear to ear, into court rooms of girl gossip and have been judged by people i do not even know. I had no idea they said all this things, until recently when i got to have a taste of the meal they cooked with my words and i was stunned.
So haters really do exist? I thought every body liked me :p...
 Do not pass along false reports. Do not cooperate with evil people by telling lies on the witness stand. (Exodus 23:1)
I refused to get too upset about these girls because somewhere at the back of my mind, i knew what the root of the problem was. I don't have as much as they do, but somewhere within those pretty girls lies insecure souls thirsty for the blood of a girl they can never be. I don't hold a grudge, i'll see them and attempt to air kiss them(if they let me) I'm too big to deal with pettiness any more. Besides what better way to deal with your haters than ignoring their hate? "if your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat;
if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head,
and the Lord will reward you. Proverbs 25:21-22


I found this poem years ago and i love how it sums all this up...
I hear that since you left me, things go from bad to worse
That the good lord quite rightly has set a signal curse
On you, your house and lover.
(I hear moreover she proves twice as screwed-up and saddened dear as me)
They say your days are tasteless, flattened, disjointed thinned across the waste by my absence, 
Loves' skeleton has grinned.
Perfect. I trust my sources of information are sound?
Or is it just some worthless rumor
I’ve been spreading around?

There's an Irish Saying that goes like this “Who gossips with you will gossip of you” Brings back memories of when i would seat with this chic and all she'd do was gossip and insult people, it was always fun to hear the stories, but i was always afraid of leaving, so i would end up seating there for longer than i should, because i knew without a shadow of a doubt i was the next target, i just couldn't imagine what she'd be saying about me next.
What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t witness with your mouth.
~Jewish Proverb

2 comments :

  1. Hmmm you hit the nail right on the head...I think right now its not called gossip, its called "gist".I learnt one thing from Pastor John hagee, he said if the topic at hand doesnt involve you then dont discuss it..i.e. things you heard from someone else that has noting to do with your person, flee from it..

    Also, I think it depends on the company you keep. I have a friend that we both gossip together, but when she made it a point of duty not to gossip, she cautioned me when I tried to continue. So I dont have much partner in crime..All we can do is ask God for the grace because once in a while we will fall (gossip) but its realising its wrong that helps us repent..I am not perfect because i find once in a while i do it but i try not to do it or I question the aunthecity of the gist when people bring it to me.

    Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Keep posting,Loving It!

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