On Marriage, Offsprings, Beauty and Plastic Surgeries...

“I married my wife out of love, but as soon as we had our first daughter, we began having marital issues,” he told the Irish Times. “Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me.”

The words of Jian Feng, the man who sued his wife for giving birth to an ugly baby. True story! Jian’s wife was ordered by the court to pay him $120,000 after he sued her on grounds of false pretense. He was ‘duped’ into believing she was a beautiful woman.

This young handsome man married a perfect beautiful woman and was one happy arm candy carrier until their first child was born. According to the news, the baby was so ugly her father accused the mother of cheating on him…. Because, he’s a fine dude, she’s a fine dude; a combination of their genes would not create something way out of the boundary of beauty. Thus he carried out a DNA test to prove she cheated on him, and alas, said baby was his. That’s when the true confession came out to play. The wife confessed that she had extensive plastic surgery before they met. She enhanced her looks… more like transformed herself to a beautiful swan. Ouch!!!

For your Maker is your Husband–the Lord of hosts is His name–and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; the God of the whole earth He is called. Isaiah 54:5

If we say we are Christians, then we are the bride of Christ. But we do well in deceiving the world like Jain's wife with our plastic surgery, making it think we really are beautiful brides, because we have put up a fake picture. Thus we walk around church in sacred steps, that if we were in a carton flick, there’d be an obvious halo floating above our heads. By all means enhance your looks, but true beauty in Christianity isn’t about faking it, its about an inner transformation of the heart that brings out the inner beauty in us, we wouldn’t need to go under the knife to impress the world. 

"You’d be surprised at the things that look great on the outside but are dysfunctional on the inside. Be sure to function as good as you look" T.D Jakes

Everyone is impressed by the perfect union, but soon enough we bear seeds that make the world question the paternity of our fruits, because what they see does not resemble what we claim to be and certainly isn’t an offspring of Christ, our bridegroom. Fruits of sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties. Galatians 5:19-21

Our fruits are nothing like His genes and what we claim to be. A true bride of Christ takes in the Holy Spirit and produces joy, love, peace and all things gorgeous. “But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness,

Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence)...” Galatians 5:22-23

Now God has every reason to ask to be separated from us forever when our deceit is brought to light, and He will be justified. But thank God our bridegroom, our Christ isn’t as hardhearted as the man who sued His wife. He loves us still and gives us chance after chance to empty ourselves and come as we are so He can love us as we are, all ugly in our sins, and fill us with His Spirit that transforms us from the inside and makes us such a beautiful bride as we produce seeds worthy of His name. When we walk in His transformation, we walk in truth, not in calculated steps trying to impress a portion of the world that we need to pretend to.

(not the real couple... this picture was taken for an ad, the children's looks were Photoshopped.) A Chinese ad showed a beautiful couple and their three not-so-pretty little kids, with the caption: “The only thing you have to worry about after plastic surgery is explaining it to your children.”

How apt, the caption for the ad is. I'd say the only thing to worry about faking your Christianity is explaining your fruits to the world.

Are you bearing ugly fruits? Making your groom question your identity? You can deceive the world of your calling, but soon enough they’ll see there’s a big cover up, a conspiracy when you begin to produce fruits.

I’m not perfect yet; daily I come to Him in all my ugliness, willing for a touch, a transformation. I thank God for the grace to refuse to cover up in my makeup and try to make Him think I am more than what I am. I am just a girl, who wants to receive the love of the man who has seen me at my worst and still loves me. I am just a girl, who comes before Him to drink of His love and His grace that transforms me into a beautiful swan by His Spirit within me. I am a work in progress, I may drop one of two ugly seeds, but He hasn’t finished His work in me, I am on the path to perfection. Thank God He hasn’t casted me away as He patiently waits for me to see myself in the light of His beauty.